The Story Behind “Everything You Said”

My opinion is there is a fine line in relationships between hearing the “truth” from your partner, and being subjected to un-necessary hurt at every juncture of the challenge of being close and intimate.

And so many years ago while living just north of San Francisco I found myself several months into a dating relationship where the criticism and my partners habit of needing to share knowingly uncomfortable info with me was starting to sting a bit too much. She seemed to enjoy seeing me be uncomfortable…

I realized I was caught up in a situation where I had given my heart and was attached, but I clearly needed to see what was wrong with the picture! I finally woke up and saw I wasn’t really being treated with the love and respect I knew I deserved and was also already giving my partner.

I did my best for awhile to try and explain what was up for me and we tried to work things out through some counseling. Unfortunately things didn’t change much if at all. The bottom line again became I was giving her a certain type of love and respect and needed the same in return.

We eventually separated and went our own ways. While it was ending I remember one of our last conversations. She was asking exactly why I was leaving.

At that point all I could say was, “I’ve just really spent some time thinking about everything you said that hurt, even though I explained how it affected me many times to you. I suppose you thought I’d never leave, but I am.”

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